Children’s tantrums can be confusing and tough to handle for parents and caregivers. These outbursts usually happen when kids feel strong emotions that they cannot handle properly. Emotions like being hungry, tired, overstimulated, or changes in their routine can cause these reactions. It is important to understand why tantrums happen. They could arise out of various factors like developmental challenges, unmet needs from parents, or sensory overload. Parents can assist their children in learning to manage their emotions better by identifying these triggers and finding the right ways to respond. These steps can lead to fewer or less intense tantrums in public.
Here is a list of reasons for toddler’s tantrums
Emotional overload: Young kids often feel strong emotions that they cannot control or explain. When these feelings become too much, they might throw a tantrum. Common reasons for this include frustration, anger, fear, and even excitement.
Developmental stage: Tantrums are very common during the toddler years, especially known as the “terrible twos.” At this time, kids are trying to be more independent but may find it hard to deal with rules set by adults.
Hunger and fatigue: Basic needs like being hungry or tired can greatly affect how a child behaves. A child who is hungry or sleepy is more likely to have a meltdown, especially in busy places.
Sensory overload: Busy public areas can be too much for kids because of all the sights, sounds, and activities. This sensory overload can cause tantrums, especially in kids who have trouble processing sensory information.
Attention-seeking: Sometimes, kids act out to get attention. If they realise that throwing a tantrum gets them what they want, they might use this behaviour to influence situations.
Unexpected changes: Sudden changes in their routine or surroundings can upset children. They prefer consistency, and any change can lead to a tantrum.
Effective strategies for handling your children’s tantrum
- Prepare yourself
- Talk to your child
- Set behavioural expectations
- Use positive reinforcement
- Keep calm
Kids can get cranky at any point and throw tantrums. It is not exactly predictable. But if you observe closely, some things irritate them the most. If you are prepared and aware of their trigger points, controlling their tantrums can be a piece of cake. So, identify their trigger points and try to avoid them. Keep distractions handy, like games or toys, to keep their minds engaged.
We often overlook the fact that children are curious about their surroundings. They want to understand what is going on. If your child is busy playing with a friend or a toy and you need to leave, do not just rush in and take them away. Instead, talk to them ahead of time and let them know you have to leave soon. This helps your child process the situation and can prevent meltdowns.
If they resist going with you, try to find out why they do not want to leave and reassure them to help them decide to come along. This approach also teaches your child about self-control.
It is important to set clear behaviour expectations. Share your plans and explain the behaviour you want from them. Clear rules help them know what is okay and what is not. Avoid using threats to make them behave, as this can cause other issues. For example, if you are going to the grocery store, tell them there will be toys to see, but you will not be buying any. This prepares them for what to expect.
Encourage your child by praising them when they show good behaviour and self-control, especially during and after a tantrum. This positive feedback can help them learn to handle their feelings more effectively in the future.
This is likely the most crucial advice for parents. If your child has a tantrum despite your best efforts, the key is to remain calm. It is tough, but with practice, it gets easier. Even if you feel upset inside, try not to let it show. Take a deep breath and remember that this behaviour is normal for their age. Stay calm, do not raise your voice, and try not to react emotionally.
If you can, take your child to a quieter place to reduce distractions. Sometimes, changing the setting can help them settle down and manage their feelings better. Avoid giving in to their requests just to stop the tantrum, as this could encourage the behaviour.
Knowing why kids have tantrums in public is key to handling them well. By identifying what causes these outbursts and using steady methods, parents can assist their kids in learning to control their emotions better. It is important to remember that tantrums are a normal part of growing up, and with time and effort, they can be managed effectively.
At Mother’s Pet Kindergarten, we recognise the difficulties parents encounter with public tantrums. Our skilled teachers are equipped to guide children through their feelings and help them build emotional control. We offer a caring and supportive space where kids can learn and thrive, making sure they feel safe and understood. By working together with parents, we strive to create a unified way to handle tantrums, both at home and in public places.
